Goals and Rewards

Setting goals WITH your child.

The premise behind Thumsters Parenting App is two fold: cause and effect, and the science behind habit loops, with a little bit of cognitive behavioral therapy in the background. We are ALL ABOUT creating CONNECTION and COMMUNICATION between parent and child, and with this in mind it's important where possible and age appropriately, to include your child in setting up their goals. As your child keeps in mind the goal they have chosen/are working towards, it will encourage them to make good behavioural choices, in line with your family's values. These may be intentional (extrinsically motivated) at first but eventually, the neural pathways in their brain are rewired into choosing the positive behaviour organically (without considering the desired outcome first, or intrinsic habits).

An example of this may be you asking your child to empty the dishwasher (their allocated chore). If your child does this the first time they are asked they know they will get a thumbs up, and so they intentionally make this choice for the first few weeks. Eventually it will become more habit rather than intention to do it as soon as they are asked (or, without having to be asked a second or multiple times). Alternatively they may get a thumbs up for doing it first thing in the morning without being asked. To begin with they may intentionally be choosing to do this to get a thumbs up to work towards their goal, but eventually it just becomes a part of their morning routine. One of our users said it best: "I love that setting goals WITH them (the kids) helps give ownership and they're more likely to follow through". (@thehappyrepublic). This is so accurate, ownership of our behaviour choices is key right throughout our lives!

How do I set a new goal for my child on Thumsters Parenting App?

Down the bottom of the 'My Kids' screen your app automatically opens to, choose the 'Goals' button. On the Goals screen you will see each of your children, each of their goals (the first three are displayed on this screen), and where they currently stand on achieving that particular goal. Click on 'Add goal +'.

To CREATE A NEW GOAL, click on the green create new goal button and follow the onscreen prompts. We discuss WHAT goals to pick in the next section. The Goal Value is the amount of thumbs up it will take to reach this goal. The Starting Value is there incase you started adding thumbs prior to adding the goal (for eg. you've already given 2 thumbs up and you want it to count towards the new goal, you can set the Starting Value at 2). You can also create a new goal by clicking on your child's icon directly in the Goal Screen.

You can edit current goals by clicking on your child's icon in the Goals screen, then clicking on the goal you wish to edit. This allows you to change the name of the goal and the number of thumbs required (Goal Value) to achieve it. You can also delete a goal all together here by clicking the rubbish bin icon in the top right hand corner.

On this screen is the (available) Rewards feature. This shows you the goals they have achieved but may not have taken yet (eg.. ice cream date with Dad), click on a goal reward to claim it and it will be moved to the feed underneath as a Reward Used. You may also notice if your child has a goal reward that has been achieved but not yet taken, they have a small trophy circle icon next to their name on the main Goal screen.

What goals should we pick?

Goals are NOT things they are working towards such as having a dry night, or a good school report etc. Goals in this sense are the incentives being used to encourage your children to make great behavior choices in line with YOUR family's values. We say this because everyone's family has different morals, values and ways of measuring character and integrity. Goals are usually things your children can look forward to achieving once they have made a certain number of great behavior choices. For example, 10 thumbs up equals screen time for an hour, or an ice cream after school.

We recommend having a couple of goals on the go for each child. One SHORT term goal, that takes a smaller time frame to achieve, and one LONG term goal that will take them a bit longer. The short term goal is there to motivate them with small wins and keep the program fresh and exciting in their minds. The long term goal encourages consistency, perseverance and is usually a bit bigger of an incentive/motivation. Here are a few examples but remember, set age-appropriate goals WITH your child, this gives them ownership both of the program and their behavior choices.


10-20 thumbs up

Screen time

Ice cream after dinner

Treat from the treat jar (lollipops, small choccie bars)

Invite a friend over for a play date on the weekend

Choose a board game for the family to play together

Movie Night with movie snacks


20+ thumbs up

New toy

New X box game

Sleep over with a couple of friends

Cinema date with Mum or Dad

Dessert date with Mum or Dad

'Boss for the day' (one family sent this to us and we thought it was just brilliant! And their kids love it. They get to make all the decisions for the day.... what's for dinner, what they watch on netflix after homework, a family game after dinner etc).

The options are limitless and you know your kids and what motivates them best. If you have ever read the book 'The five love languages' or its companion 'The five love languages of children' this can be a big help in deciding what could be a good option for your kiddos.